Pam Refior loves the Lord, loves her husband, loves her daughters and their husbands, loves her eight grandchildren, loves her friends … and loves life.  Her husband states (repeatedly) and he really means it, “Pam is the sweetest person I have ever met in my life, and I get the wonderful blessing of living with her.”

Pam was born in Kokomo, Indiana and lived on a farm in Howard County, Indiana during her early years.  Pam grew up in the loving home of E. J. and Shirley Petro, along with her brother Tim, who is four years her junior.  Her family moved to Bettendorf, Iowa where Pam spent her junior high and high school years.  During high school she was active in many activities.  She loved horses and when her parents moved back to the farm in Indiana she was able to finally have horses of her own.

Pam entered Iowa Wesleyan College in the fall of 1968 where she earned her degree in elementary education.  During college she met and married her husband, Paul Refior (“Rafe”) and their first daughter, Nikki Jo, was born.

Following college graduation Rafe was off to law school at the University of Iowa.  At that time there was a glut of teachers in Iowa City and there were no teaching positions available.  Therefore Pam took a very difficult job in a factory where she worked as the primary breadwinner for the family during the three years of law school.  After some time of sweating on the injection molding machine she was promoted to the lab where she thoroughly enjoyed the work.

It was on October 31, 1976 during the Navy years in Norfolk, Virginia that Pam placed her faith and trust in Jesus Christ and she became a true Christian.  Her husband had received the Lord the previous year on January 19, 1975.  Therefore, in 1976 the Refiors became a Christian family, and Pam embraced her roles as a Christian wife and mother.  Those Navy years were quite important as Pam received excellent instruction at Tabernacle Church of Norfolk, including the significant teachings of Helena Garrick.  It was shortly after arriving at Norfolk that Pam gave birth to their second daughter, Laura Marie.

Pam and her family moved from Virginia to the mountains of Wyoming where they spent two years in Pinedale, Wyoming.  The grandeur of God’s creation, the beauty of God’s landscapes and the wildlife were all very wonderful.  At 7200 feet, Pinedale had an unusually long winter and there was snow cover for most of the year.  When the Refiors accepted an unexpected invitation to do missionary work in Japan, Pam took on the important roles of missionary, English teacher, evangelistic cooking class leader, and home school teacher, on top of her duties as wife and mother.

Then it was back to Indiana and the establishment of Refior Law Office in Warsaw in 1981.  Initially Pam was the receptionist and bookkeeper and the do-anything-else helper for the fledgling law firm.  Pam continues to be the bookkeeper of Refior Law Office to this very day.

Warsaw, Indiana was a very good place to raise Nikki and Laura.  Both Nikki and Laura graduated from Warsaw Community High School.  Pam was active for many years at Pleasant Bible Church.  She served with her husband for ten years as the leaders of the children’s program (first called “Olympians” and then called “ACTION”).  Then Pam served with her husband as teachers of the second grade Sunday School class for the next nine years.  Pam’s other activities included Christian Women’s Club and Band and Choir Boosters.  For many years her schedule revolved around the kids’ activities, including athletics, cheerleading, band, choir, band competitions, choral competitions, girls’ piano lessons, family outings, family trips and church activities.  When the girls graduated from high school they both attended Cedarville College in Ohio (now Cedarville University), so trips to Ohio were added to the already busy schedule, during those years before their graduations.

Pam and her husband have thoroughly enjoyed their grandchildren (eight – from 16 years old, down to almost 2 years old).  During the years the Refiors had a condo in Naples, Florida Pam enjoyed the beach, bike rides, wonderful restaurants and the warm weather Florida provides.  Then in 2006 Pam and Rafe purchased a small 13 acre “farm” near Lafayette, and a branch office of Refior Law Office was opened in Lafayette.  That allowed Rafe and Pam to join and become active at Faith Church in Lafayette.  Now they enjoy two hometowns:  Warsaw, Monday through Thursday, and Lafayette, Friday through Sunday.  Pam continues to enjoy her Community Bible Study on Wednesdays in Warsaw.  Pam and Rafe are having the time of their lives and are very thankful to the Lord.



 (March 2012)


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